It’s that time of the year again: finals. And you know what that means: procrastination. I’ve had plenty of stumbleupon and tumblr lately and I keep coming across something that kinda bothers me. I keep reading posts and articles and all that internet crap about girls complaining about douchebags. Likewise, there are people putting out the “ode to the nice guy” stuff out there in internet land. People say stuff like how can you date that asshole when you have a great guy friend who will go shopping with you and let you talk about (insert random asshole here) for hours.
Now normally I wouldn’t give two shits about crap on the internet, but I happened to notice that it coincides with some stuff a friend of mine has been complaining about lately and once I took notice, it’s everywhere. Why do girls like jerks? Simple, they know how to take control in a situation, assert a positive masculine side and make the girl feel special. Essentially, these guys know how to convey themselves in a positive way while still being cool, calm, and collected. That’s their positive side, but the negative side is that they don’t know how to convey their emotional side, they don’t know how to care, and they don’t know how to be in a relationship.
On the other end of the spectrum are nice guys. They are the guys that make good friends, will listen to you whine about assholes, buy you chocolate ice cream during that time of the month, and they even make decent boyfriends. They know how to convey themselves in an emotional and caring way. But these are the guys that society has emasculated so when they are in a relationship you get girls like my friend who says, “I love my boyfriend and all but sometimes I wish he wasn’t always so eager. I don’t like feeling like the man all the time.” Girls have trouble respecting guys that are overbearing and can’t do enough for you. While I love a puppy dog, I wouldn’t want to date one.
The happy medium between the two would be a guy that knows how to take charge, assert themselves in romantic and social situations, have control without being overbearing, know how to be romantic (but not a bullshit artist), have deep emotional conversations, convey his true self, but remain cool, calm, and collected. Most guys either fall into the asshole category or the whimpy category. What is society coming to these days?